It’s true that it’s harder than last time because we’ve been a couple for two years now and lived together.

You know I always think I should have been more perfect But thanks. I’m gonna take the permission and just feel a bit sorry for myself

Sure, next time you might have kids, or a different job, or he might not be able to check in as often (all hypotheticals!)

But next time will be easier because you will have done it before. And you’ll be better equipped to deal with the challenges.

So stop beating yourself up for not beating the game on the lowest level, or whatever. This is HARD. Own that it’s hard. This is the only time you’ll be planning a wedding without your sweetie at your side. It’s okay to be sad and a bit stressed about it, and to ACKNOWLEDGE that sadness and stress.

Otherwise you’ll be so busy judging yourself for not breezing through it that you will forget to deal with your sadness and stress.

It wasn’t the same last time at all because you didn’t share a home and you weren’t a couple couple in the same way you are now. Missing your person is allowed. It’s not a sign of weakness.

I used to miss mine like crazy when he was away for work for only a few days at at time, and thought I was all weird and neurotic for finding it hard to sleep without him. Until I remembered that i had never, ever slept in a house on my own before that.

Also he finds it hard to sleep when he is away from me Because, having something taken away from you, even for a short time, is WAY HARDER than not having it in the first place.

You will look back on this time and say wow, that was hard, but I DID IT and therefore I can do anything. At least, I hope you do that instead of looking back and saying ‘wow I should have been more perfect in how I handled that, next time I will put double the pressure on myself, that’ll work.’