Comments on: So, I have news…

By: AlisaK

AlisaK — Wed, 01 May 2013 01:59:01 +0000

There is no perfect.

I suspect learning to be ok about not being 100% in control and not being perfect are going to be some of the lessons in all this for me. As well as knowing my limits.

By: Nicky S

Nicky S — Wed, 01 May 2013 01:57:00 +0000

I suspect so (given my worry-heavy nature). I spent the whole time, even after he landed going “what in the heck just happened”.

And yes, we did muddle along just fine – I’m sure my nearly 19yr old would have things to say, because all of us have something to say about our childhoods.

An observation I made to a friend (who was/is extremely anxious over getting absolutely everything right at all stages of parenting) is you may think you know what will affect them, and stuff happens but it won’t be what you thought it was or when. Which my son and I’ve already discovered (as I have done with my mum about my upbringing).

By: Ju

Ju — Tue, 30 Apr 2013 03:37:09 +0000

*lovelovelove* Hoping that things improve for you in the coming weeks. I am tucking your Aunt’s advice away for future reference should I need it.

By: AlisaK

AlisaK — Mon, 29 Apr 2013 08:29:07 +0000

Thank you and thank you for your well wishes.

By: AlisaK

AlisaK — Mon, 29 Apr 2013 08:28:34 +0000

The not hearing the drive by advice is a good thing! I bet you did just fine without it!

By: AlisaK

AlisaK — Mon, 29 Apr 2013 08:27:48 +0000

I guess I decided in the end that you’d never really be fully ready and my time is finite.

Thank you – yes it did seem to linger on, didn’t it, with very little concern about doing something about it! I’m not the best at taking care of myself, especially when I’m very sick, I tend to do nothing even when doing something will make me feel better. But I have a very caring husband – or impatient who can’t stand the whining, one or the other!

By: AlisaK

AlisaK — Mon, 29 Apr 2013 08:25:27 +0000

Thank you!

By: AlisaK

AlisaK — Mon, 29 Apr 2013 08:25:15 +0000

You were fine! That was a genuine conversation we had between friends. And I love your being there at the end of my Twitter feed.

By: AlisaK

AlisaK — Mon, 29 Apr 2013 08:24:31 +0000

Luckily, I already got over any guilt at lack of housecleaning when juggling my press and a day job.

But yeah, the being ok about not getting to everything or not being able to always do everything – that I’m still working on.

Thanks for the well wishes.

By: AlisaK

AlisaK — Mon, 29 Apr 2013 08:22:19 +0000

Thank you. And yes, so very very true.

By: AlisaK

AlisaK — Mon, 29 Apr 2013 08:21:56 +0000

Ah yes, thanks for sharing that story

Everyone has that one burning piece of knowledge that they wish they had had as prior warning for themselves.

It’s also really unlikely to be the one thing that I will wish that I knew.

By: AlisaK

AlisaK — Mon, 29 Apr 2013 08:11:56 +0000

It’s been in no way fun, yet. And I know it’s only temporary but 35 weeks is a REALLY. LONG. TIME. And I still have so much longer to go. And there is a level of claustrophobia about it which I haven’t spoken about yet. I don’t think I’ll forget how awful I’ve felt for such a long period of time.

This is going to require character growth, I know this and I know it’s not beyond me, I’m just not that into the process, really.

By: AlisaK

AlisaK — Mon, 29 Apr 2013 08:08:44 +0000

Thanks. I’ve been counting down to the 12 weeks in the hopes that it will be better. And it has a bit, so that’s something.

And yeah, as long as I actually set the boundaries other than just talking about them, I’ll be ok!

By: AlisaK

AlisaK — Mon, 29 Apr 2013 08:07:54 +0000

Ugh. Seriously. As though you don’t know anything and the other person, cause they’ve done it once or twice, is the expert on you. So infuriating!

By: AlisaK

AlisaK — Mon, 29 Apr 2013 08:07:09 +0000

Thank you. I hope that’s true – cause so far, I ain’t got nuthin’ else!

By: Shane

Shane — Mon, 29 Apr 2013 03:03:23 +0000

Congratulations Alisa. I love your perspective.
As a newish parent myself, we have a 2 year old after 20 years as a single cat family, I can honestly say she is the most wonderful, beautiful, life enriching thing that ever happened to us. So much so that number 2 is only 7 weeks away. We had to do it again. We have conversations now that start with “Can you even remember what we were doing this time 3 years ago?”. Only the cat probably has reservations. 12 years is a long time to be an only child. He doesn’t appreciate the extra attention only a 2 year old can give.
I am really excited for anyone starting out on this journey. All the best.

By: Nicky S

Nicky S — Mon, 29 Apr 2013 01:42:59 +0000

Once again congratulations and I am sorry you’re having such a rough time of it physically. That sucks and I hope it does abate for you.

I think I was backward-fortunate for my sole pregnancy that I was too shocked at said revelation to hear a word of anything anyone said to me (and being “young” probably helped/saved me).

Your aunt sounds like a wonderful woman and is spot on with her words.

Plus, I second what Tansy *points up* has said.

By: stephbg

stephbg — Mon, 29 Apr 2013 00:47:16 +0000

I’d be surprised if anyone managed to get pregnant if they leapt in feet first, prepared or not.

Not that you need either my opinion or my approval, but you seem to be doing a good job of taking care of things and most importantly yourself. It’s good to see.

I’m also glad to hear you haven’t caught some horrible virus like Ross River Fever, because that’s what it was sounding like!

By: Jo

Jo — Sun, 28 Apr 2013 23:53:00 +0000

(D’oh, meant to be a full stop after the smiley face)

By: Paul Weimer (@PrinceJvstin)

Paul Weimer (@PrinceJvstin) — Sun, 28 Apr 2013 23:08:17 +0000

Wow, congratulations, Alisa!!