Comments on: You’re probably going to think my daughter rude

By: Ju

Ju — Sat, 22 Mar 2014 02:05:17 +0000

I am grateful to have learned to stop taking things that people are handing out as I walk by – and if they try and persist I’ve practiced over and over ‘No thank you’ as my response – and that goes for people trying to sell me stuff at the door or on the phone. I’m much more engaging from those where I’m specifically on their list to be called twice a year for stuff, and they’re also generally fine when I say, I’m not in a position right now. They always see if it’s okay to call again next time which I appreciate too.

By: AlisaK

AlisaK — Thu, 20 Mar 2014 09:13:57 +0000

OMG Thoraiya! I would have wanted to throttle someone so rude about unplugging your phone! GRRR

By: AlisaK

AlisaK — Thu, 20 Mar 2014 09:13:24 +0000

It’s not that I’m indecisive, I know what I want. I’m just used to allowing someone else’s wants to override that.

By: Thoraiya

Thoraiya — Wed, 19 Mar 2014 22:50:54 +0000

Wow. I really relate to this. Good on you.

Did I tell you about the time a con man pushed past me into my house and start replacing my showerhead, completely ignoring me, until Action Man arrived and made him put the old showerhead back on and GTFO? Or the time a Telstra salesperson rang, and the phone ringing woke the baby, and I had a total breakdown and told the salesperson I had spent 4 hours trying to get the baby to sleep, and he sarcastically said, “oh, did I wake up your baby? Maybe you should have unplugged the phone.”

!!!

By: Paul

Paul — Wed, 19 Mar 2014 20:20:11 +0000

“I’m angry that I found it weird when I met my husband and he would ask me to define my boundaries. When he would ask me what it is that *I* wanted – for all kinds of things from what movie to see, to what restaurant I wanted to go to, whatever. I found it *difficult* to make decisions like that without knowing what “the right answer” was.”

After 15 years, I still have to go through this with my wife. I value her opinion and her preferences – but trying to get her to decide on something is nearly impossible. I’ve learned to give her time to think about it as pressure just makes her less decisive.